I cannot tell my daughter's story without telling my own story because my story had a dramatic effect on my daughter. I was severely abused by my father and his friends from age 3 to 6. My mother's mantra to me was "your stupid, your ugly and no one will ever love you. So, that is how my life began. I was suicidal at a young age and spent most of my adult life trying to get love and acceptance from men. It has taken me a long time to heal and some things you never truly heal from.
i mothered my children from my own trauma and they had to go through my acting out and repercussions of that trauma. They were all affected in one way or another and it has taken us all a long time to heal our relationship. I love my children dearly and if I could go back and change anything it would be the effect my trauma had on them. It has been difficult to forgive myself. I was talking to my daughter about that today and she said "remember mom, we came here to experience and to learn; release it to the universe". We cannot change the past but we can do better in the present and in the future.
Am I partially responsible for where my daughter is at-absolutely.
The incarcerated are our brothers and sisters-broken angels. Many of the women were sexually, physically or mentally abused as children or a victim of domestic violence. They have huge self-esteem and self-worth issues and the prison system continues that cycle and then expects them to come out and be healthy productive members of society. To prepare these women for going back into society, they should be treating them with dignity and respect, be building their self-esteem and self-worth and teach them job skills that are relevant to today's society. Prison causes a form of PTSD. It is horrific the way we treat other human beings sometimes. And if you say that saying, "if you can't do the time, don't do the crime", then you have missed the point and it is easy to dismiss the atrocities of the criminal justice system.
BABIES ARE NOT BORN BAD-SOMETHING HAPPENS TO THAT CHILD AND WE AS A SOCIETY ARE COMPLICIT IN THAT ON MANY LEVELS.
My beautiful daughter
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